BULDING LASTING RELATIONSHIPS

Few of us we lead our lives isolation. There’s reason for this: relationships with others a critical aspect of our sense of well-being. The support of friends and relatives helps us feel good about ourselves. In fact studies have found that our physical and psychological health may suffer without friendships. The social support of others acts a guard against stress and illness. And if we do get sick, we recover more quickly if we have a supportive network of friends.

“I have met the most amazing individuals and made the most incredible friends in such a short amount of time” Said Lenny UDOM University student

Although some of us making friend is ease, for others making friends is some difficult. But building relationships is not a mystery. Here are several ways to go about it.

Invest time with others; there is no better way to demonstrate that you are interesting in friends than investing time. You can expect friendships to flourish unless you spend time with people.

Reveal yourself; good friends understand each other. The best way to make that happen is to let others get to know you. Talk about where you come from, what is your family like. Find out about the other person. Having deeply understanding about where someone comes from not only helps to build bridges between people of different racial and ethnic backgrounds but it also helps build friendships. By honestly communicating your beliefs and altitudes, you give others the chance to learn those things you have in common.

Let other know you like them; it seems scary, but don’t be coy and try to pretend you are uninterested in the friendships of others. Take the risk of being rebuffed. You don’t have to announce outright that you like someone. Instead reveal you interest in a friendship by inviting the person to do something with you or simple by engaging in conversation, sharing something about your life. Your actions will speak louder than word

Accept others as they are; not as you would like them to be; one mark of friend is to acceptance of people the way they are, warts and all, and not way would like them to be. Do not impose conditions on accepting others. Keep in mind that no one is perfect and that everyone has both good and bad qualities.

Show concern and caring; this is really the substance of friendship and the basis for the trust that develops between friends. Don’t be afraid to show your interest in the fortunes of others and to share the sadness then they share some setback or loss.

Not everyone make a good friend; people who put you down, consistently make you feel bad, or behave in ways that violate your own personal standards are not friends. Choose your friends based on the good feelings you have when you are with them and the concern and caring they show for you. Friendship is a two way street.